As a working wife and mother, I know exactly what it feels like to come last. I put myself there for nearly 2 decades but it hurt everyone, especially me. You see, not taking care of yourself is selfish because you don’t love yourself as much as other people in your life love you. For women, setting aside time for self-care often feels selfish. But, in reality, the opposite is true. The next time you feel like you’re being selfish for taking care of yourself, consider these three points.

1. You’re Much Happier

Taking care of yourself is the best way to increase your happiness. How happy you are depends solely on you; nothing and no one has the power to make you happy. It’s an inside job.As Elle Woods said, “Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy and happy people don’t shoot their husbands.” When you’re happier, shit doesn’t get to you as much, which leads to less irritability.

2.  You’re Less Irritable

Taking care of yourself, specifically through diet and exercise, has a way of removing irritation from your life. Knowing that you’re feeding your body what it needs and you’re keeping active is the greatest form of self-love.

How amazing would it be to feel less irritable?

Moods are contagious so make sure you spread a good one! Your family, friends, coworkers, etc will thank you.

If you think taking care of yourself is selfish, think again. It's actually the most selfless thing you can do.

3. You’re Less Stressed

Exercise is the best form of stress relief available and it’s the one most often ignored. I’m guilty of this. When shit hits the fan and life becomes overwhelming, I know that exercise will help me feel better but I don’t do it. I always regret it.

How amazing would it be for you and your family to have a happier, less irritable, and less stressed you?

A Real-Life Example

Before I started taking care of myself, I had high blood pressure, high cholesterol and type 2 diabetes. All of these are lifestyle conditions that could’ve taken me out without warning. Think about that – I could’ve died of a stroke all because I didn’t eat right or take 30 minutes to exercise. I could’ve left my family without a wife and mother. My family can function just fine without me for 30-45 minutes a day while I exercise, but an entire lifetime? I’m not ready to leave my family (no matter how crazy they make me) so I had a choice. I chose to take care of myself so I could stick around.

How to Make it Work

If you have children, you’re probably thinking that you can’t squeeze in time for yourself. Here’s the thing – you can if you change a few things. I understand that my children may be older than yours, but there are things you can do to make time for yourself. I follow a morning routine that may help you carve out that much-needed time for yourself. Have babies or toddlers? Take full advantage of nap time. So what if your house isn’t immaculate. The most important thing is to take care of yourself and your family, right? In the end, no one is ever going to say that you kept a clean house.

Because each of us have different obligations, schedules, and whatnot, it’s important to take a long, hard look at your schedule and start prioritizing your time. I can almost guarantee that you’ll find time for yourself if your schedule. Go look for it!

Bobbi