Self Care

How to Shop for Healthy Foods with a Family

How to Shop for Healthy Foods with a FamilyIf you’re anything like me, grocery shopping is a huge pain on a normal day. Trying to eat healthy and manage weight loss makes grocery shopping even more difficult – especially when my family tags along. We have a limited amount of time together so we always grocery shop together, which makes it somewhat difficult for me. I’m a list maker and I tend to only go down the aisles that house the items on my list. My husband, however, is the total opposite. He goes down each and every aisle, whether we need anything or not, just to look, he says. Here’s how I shop for healthy foods with a family.

The first thing I do is make my plan of attack. I think of the supermarket as the battlefield because it’s chock full of temptations that can very easily sway me. My husband and I are strategic now when it comes to grocery shopping. We divide and conquer.

I’m a paper and pen list maker but I’ve adjusted to make things a bit easier for my husband, who, for whatever reason, despises writing things down. We use the Out of Milk app (Apple & Android) on our phones to make our grocery list because we can share it. He tackles the inner parts of the store and I handle the outer perimeter.

One thing that I always do before heading out to the grocery store is to make sure I’m not hungry. I grab a snack or make sure I have lunch before I walk through those doors. If I don’t have something on my stomach, I tend to buy more crap, which defeats the purpose of shopping for healthy foods. If I’m not the least bit hungry, I always throw a baggie of cashews or something in my bag before we go. There’s nothing wrong with noshing on a snack as you’re shopping. 🙂

I try to plan our meals for the week before heading to the store, too. This not only helps keep me on track with my food but it’s good for my budget, too! We only buy what’s absolutely necessary to get through the week and whatever spices or condiments we may need. I plan all 3 of my meals because it’s easier for me. I don’t like having to think too much about what’s for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Of course, dinner is the only meal that my family participates in planning, which is okay. I can always make my portion of dinner healthy even if they don’t.

That’s how I shop for healthy foods with a family. It’s not always easy but it’s nowhere near as difficult as I thought it would be either. That was just another excuse I made for not shopping for healthy foods before, but that’s not the case now.

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My First Weigh In: How Did I Do?

My First Weigh InThis is my first weigh in and I don’t have high expectations. I haven’t been exercising at all. Well, except for walking around the zoo over the weekend. But, other than that, I haven’t done anything. I’m trying to focus on one thing at a time and get a firm grasp before I move on to something else. Since food is the hardest for me, I’m tackling that first. You know, the whole eat the frog mentality.

Since I’ve only focused on my food, I wasn’t expecting to see much of a change on the scale. I wasn’t even planning on weighing myself so soon after my check up but I was curious. Every other time I’ve done this, I’ve weighed myself daily. I know, I know, some of you are going to say I shouldn’t do that but it works for me, okay?

I’ve been stepping on the scale all week just to see what’s happening. Imagine my surprise when I stepped on the scale yesterday and saw….drum roll please…..268.0! Which means, if my math is right, that I’ve lost 10 pounds! I know that this is pretty much all water weight but, hey, I’ll take what I can get. 😀 I can’t tell you what this has done for my motivation!

The only thing I’ve done is watch my carbs, sugar, and calories. I’ve also done some meal planning and snack prep. I love cashew, and, as it turns out, they’re good for you. So, I bought some and portioned them out into snack baggies. I just grab and go now and I love it!

For week 2, I’ll be incorporating exercise into the mix to see what happens. So, stay tuned for the next weigh in to see how I did.

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In the Beginning I was 278 Pounds…

In the Beginning I was 278 Pounds...I had my 6 month check up on Monday and I weighed in at a whopping 278 pounds. This is the largest I’ve ever been and I’m not going to stand for it anymore. At the end of this check up, I learned, not only do I still have high blood pressure and high cholesterol, but I also have type 2 diabetes. I’ve been teetering on the edge for quite some time but I never thought I’d fall. Well, it looks like I was wrong.

Like everyone else who struggles with weight loss, I’ve tried just about everything to lose the pounds. My problem is that, while I have good intentions, my follow through sucks balls! Each time, I’ve started strong only to hurt myself or let something throw me off course. Right now, I no longer have that option. Despite how I feel or what I’d rather do, my health must be front and center of everything in my life. I’ve made it clear to myself and everyone around me that I don’t love myself and that stops now.

I guess it was sometime last year, when I was floating around in the pool, that my brain started chattering away about me. It was so intense that I had to get out of the pool and write it all down. It just wasn’t going to let it go. So, out I got and wrote until my brain finally shut up about it. Here’s what I figured out (and, yes, it still applies):

What do I like about myself?

  1. Sense of humor
  2. Compassionate
  3. Intelligent
  4. Legs
  5. Hands
  6. Face
  7. Hair

What don’t I like about myself?

  1. Weight/Health
  2. Boobs
  3. Perfectionist tendencies
  4. I expect too much
  5. Acne scars
  6. Laziness

How can I change what I don’t like?

1. I need to exercise for at least 30 minutes each day. I need to eat better foods; more whole grains, fruits, and veggies. I need to track all of my food and exercise using the LoseIt app. I must exercise first thing in the morning so that I actually do it!

2. Unless I have plastic surgery, there’s not a whole lot I can do about this one. My boobs don’t bother me enough to willingly have surgery that’s going to render me virtually useless for a few weeks.

3. I don’t want to settle for close enough is good enough, but I don’t want to keep adding stress to my life either. I have to learn to accept that my best is good enough. Not everyone is going to be happy with me or what I do, but I’m not responsible for anyone’s happiness but mine.

4. I need to learn to expect absolutely nothing or to accept that whatever wasn’t meant to be. Basically, I need a more positive outlook on things and people. Not everyone is as thoughtful or considerate as me.

5. These scars could be much worse than they are and I’m grateful they aren’t. I could spend hundreds of dollars on chemical peels, which would lessen the scars but leave me confined to the house because of peeling. Or, I can accept them as a badge of courage and find new techniques to covering them using makeup.

6. I need to just get things done so that I can stay on track. Even if I don’t want to do it, I have to suck it up and get it done. I need to remind myself that the more I get done, the less I have to do the next day. What an example to set for the boys!

This was all well before my diagnosis but it definitely still applies. Maybe diabetes was the kick in the ass I needed – I don’t know. I’d hate to think that I let myself get this far gone before I took action but, let’s be real, that’s exactly what happened. I failed at taking care of myself – period. I could ramble off excuse after excuse but that’s the real deal.

How did I let myself get to 278 pounds?!

The answer is simple – I ate what I wanted, when I wanted, and I didn’t exercise. I was lazy. I struggle with emotional eating, skipping meals, and always making excuses as to why I can’t do this or can’t do that. My favorite go-to excuse was that I didn’t have time. Bullshit! I didn’t make time – there’s a difference. I waited until the last horn blew to get off my ass and do something about it. I’m a triple threat and not in the way I want to be but I’ll get there.

So, what I am doing differently now?

Well, as of Monday, my entire world changed. It’s all whole grains for me, counting calories and carbs, and cutting way back on sugar. That was the hardest because I love my iced coffees from Dunkin’ Donuts. I started Metformin today and I’ve also been testing my glucose once a day. Now that’s a pain in the ass! The Metformin is no walk in the friggin’ park either. It’s like trying to swallow a dime. I grew out of that stuff a long time ago! 😉 I’ve researched the hell out of type 2 diabetes. I’m talking recipes, carb counts, glucose levels, everything. I’ve spent a lot time really learning about it and taking it all in.

What’s to come?

Who the hell knows but I can tell you this – I will NEVER see 278 pounds again! I know – never say never – but, trust me when I say that I will never see it again. I’m not going to let it happen!

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Stop Apologizing for these 5 Things Now!

Stop Apologizing for these 5 Things Now!Apologizing is something that we’re taught to do when we’ve made a mistake or done something wrong. It’s important to apologize when it’s necessary but how do you know when it’s necessary? There are many things we currently apologize for that we shouldn’t and it’s time to stop – NOW! To help you get started, here are 5 things to stop apologizing for.

Saying No

You don’t need to apologize for saying no to anyone. It’s important for you to set and keep boundaries with everyone in order to keep your sanity. Trust me, saying yes to everything gets old – fast. Saying no says that you have respect for yourself and that you’re more interested in taking care of yourself than being everything for everyone.

I usually feel guilty when I have to tell someone no but that feeling, eventually, goes away. It’s not a good feeling but I’d rather feel that bit of unnecessary guilt than resentment because I agreed to do something I really didn’t want to do or have the time to do.

If you can’t give 100%, why say yes? If you don’t have time, why say yes? If you don’t want to do it, why say yes? These are the questions you should ask yourself when someone asks you to do something.

Your Imperfections

By nature, humans are not perfect beings so stop apologizing for not being perfect. Always be true to yourself and embrace your imperfections because they make you who you are. Being imperfect allows room for growth and improvement and that makes us better versions of ourselves.

No matter what your imperfections are, we all have them. No matter what anyone says, no one is perfect and that’s a fact. Just in case you need a reminder, here ya go.

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Taking Time for Yourself

We all need time to refresh and recharge and that’s exactly what time alone does. I generally spend every Saturday alone and I relish every minute of it. Even though I’m usually catching up on housework, I’m still alone – not having to listen to anyone fight and argue.

Being alone with your thoughts and emotions provides you an opportunity to get to know yourself on a deeper level. Spend this time doing something you enjoy. For me, I get my chores out of the way first and then I spend the rest of the day reading, swimming (weather permitting) or whatever else I enjoy.

Another Person

Despite what you may think or believe, you’re only responsible for your behavior. If you do something that isn’t right, by all means apologize, but don’t apologize for another person. It’s not your place to take responsibility for anyone else’s behavior.

There have been times when I’ve apologized for my children but they’re the only ones I will apologize for – up to a point. I refuse to ever apologize for another grown person; they know how to behave. If they don’t, they’re never too old to learn.

Being Honest

It’s true – sometimes the truth hurts but there’s no reason to apologize for being honest. There’s a big difference between honest and being rude so be sure you’re aware of that. There’s no need to be rude so always be tactful. Being honest shows just how strong you truly are and that should be celebrated.

The Point

It’s time to stop apologizing for everything – especially those things that are out of your control. Furthermore, never, ever compromise your integrity for anyone else because it’s just not worth it. If you’re always true to yourself everything else will fall into place.

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