It’s no secret that I’ve been on and off this weight loss wagon for forever and a day. Why? Because of self-sabotage. Why would I, or anyone, willingly keep themselves from being healthy and happy? The answer isn’t an easy one. In fact, is way more complicated than you think. Self-sabotage doesn’t just apply to weight loss; it applies to every single aspect of our lives, if you do it. Here are 4 reasons we self-sabotage…
If you’re afraid of what could happen, it’s likely going to keep you from doing it. It doesn’t matter what the fear is. It could be fear of failure, you’ll be going into unfamiliar territory, or the fear that your critical inner voice will prevent you from achieving your goals. Fear is a very powerful emotion. With regards to weight loss, fear has kept me yo-yo’ing for a long time because I was afraid of failing. What happened? I failed anyway! We’re not going to succeed at everything the first time around so tell fear to suck it and do what you gotta do!
I don’t know about you, but my inner voice is a critical little bitch that I’d love to punch in the face. It’s constantly telling me that I’m not good enough for this or that and, eventually, I believe it. How you see yourself has a huge impact on everything in your life. This alone can be enough to keep you from attempting something new!
Staying with what’s familiar is rigidity and it will get you nowhere fast. A negative self-image is very destructive and we often don’t change it because it’s familiar. Let’s face it – it’s so freakin’ hard to change who we are and how we think. But, if you’re interested in making a lasting change, taking personal stock of yourself is essential.
Once we get comfortable it’s hard to get uncomfortable. But, good things don’t come from your comfort zone. If you want to change and grow, you have to get uncomfortable. We often resist change because it makes us uncomfortable but nothing will change if we don’t change. If you want something different, you have to be willing to be different.
It’s high time to stop self-sabotaging and achieve your goals. If you need to, seek out a therapist to help you overcome that critical inner voice. There’s no shame in asking for, and receiving, help. I attend therapy sessions twice a month, sometimes more, and it’s an amazing thing.